Perfectionism is a side effect of addiction. Trying to be perfect (impossible) we beat ourselves up, judge, and distort ourselves. We are never enough. Trying too hard and not trying at all are two signs of the coin of perfection. Unfortunately it is a coin that never ever pays off…


“It’s our illusions that hang us up.” – – Anne Wilson Schaef Our addictions lead us into a life of illusion. They feed our illusion of control, our illusion of perfectionism, and our honesty. Our addictive behavior allows us to deny reality and justify not living OUR life. One of the significant qualities of beingContinue reading “Illusions”

GOD’S Timetable

God’s Timetable is not necessarily Our Timetable. Events will happen as scheduled and for a bigger picture than Our ego will permit. I will take a long look at where I am today and be grateful for my place. It’s right for me now and is preparing me for my next adventure.

Reaction isn’t ACTION

We must learn to ACT rather than REACT. Change is ours if we want it. Being in charge of our own feelings and our own actions prevents anxiety from overcoming us. The opportunities to react will be many today. Everytime I pause, determine the action I feel better about and take it. My emotional healthContinue reading “Reaction isn’t ACTION”


Problems give us the opportunity to learn something. If we don’t get the message the first time around, we get another chance, and another, and another. When we miss out on the learning each time the whack upside the head gets harder. Obstacles are gifts for learning. We never really know what we have learnedContinue reading “Problems”

Hear Me

Being heard and hearing another person is more than just listening. It’s letting ourselves be touched, in an intimate way, by another person’s words. We all want to be heard, but listening is a huge part of conversation. The beauty of hearing each other is that it helps us to hear ourselves. We get toContinue reading “Hear Me”

My Garden

It’s up to US what we do with Our lives. Everyone has feelings and memories we must work thru. None of Us had perfect families, honestly dysfunctional families are the norm. When we get stuck in our blame, anger, hurt, and Denial we are the ones to suffer. It is up to each one ofContinue reading “My Garden”